It’s cute how they say “cookie” like it’s possible to have just one. #reading #cupoftea #milanocookies #monday
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Lorde - Everybody Wants to Rule the World (Tears For Fears Cover)
I didn’t go far - just moved back to Rochester for a new job and to be closer to my family.
"The sun - the bright sun, that brings back, not light alone, but new life, and hope, and freshness to man—burst upon the crowded city in clear and radiant glory." - Charles Dickens
Vegan chicks: vegan cupcakes with vegan almond buttercream frosting rolled in toasted coconut with almond beaks and feet - and chocolate chip eyes #birthdaytreat #adorablebakedgoods
Gluten free Prosciutto, spinach, kale, and mushroom lasagna rollups - only 400 calories - and very delicious! #healthy2014 #yum
A spot in front of the fireplace, a new bone & a bad ass skull and crossbones sweater later, Gus is ready for the arctic blast. #bulldog #bulldogsofinstagram
At my new office, we have the NFL Network on all day. In the past week or so, between playoff talk and analyst commentary, I’ve seen and/or heard the new celebrity-stuffed “No More” PSA no less than 30 times.
Over, and over, and over again I’ve listened to celebrities tell me that there’s a serious need to increase public discussions about rape and sexual assault.
My colleagues and I joked about the frequency of the ad - because let’s face it, the mention of rape every 10 minutes can be a bit uncomfortable.
The thing is, though - those celebrities are right. There is a serious need. Sure, no one likes talking about rape - but we really should. We have to. The fact that it’s a taboo, shameful thing that people don’t talk about is undoubtedly one of the reasons that every two minutes, another American is sexually assaulted - and yet 97% of rapists never spend a day in jail. Rapists think they can get away with it because they can - and they do - everyday. We let them. I let him.
Maybe if that commercial had been so inescapable after I’d been brutally raped 9 years, 10 months, and 8 days ago, I would have spoken up. I may have pursued legal action. The “how many other girls has he done this to now?” question might not haunt me to this day.
Who knows, maybe I’d be a less messed up married woman with kids by now.
You see, (please pardon my language) being violently raped really fucked me up.
To be honest, I no longer blame the guy who did it. I blame myself for not dealing with it better. For not talking about it. For only telling the people who absolutely needed to know. For shutting down and refusing to talk about it whenever they tried to help. For not giving counseling a more honest try. I regret a lot of things - but the thing I regret most is not talking about how being forced into violent sex against my will changed me and affected my life.
I was an incredibly naive 19 year old college sophomore when it happened. Now, at 29, I feel like I’ve finally made some headway working through it. There is absolutely no question that talking about it has been a huge part of that. Better late than never, right?
For a long time, I thought that the best way to cope was to move on and forget that it ever happened. As if I could.
When things surfaced, I didn’t talk about them - I just told myself that I was fine and I needed to get past it. I was lying. I wasn’t fine and there was no way I could get past it if I never accepted it and dealt with it head on.
Just like anything, dealing with it involves sorting through feelings and talking about it.
After almost ten years of relative silence, I’m shocking myself by writing this blog post and putting it out there for everyone to see, and know.
After avoiding saying anything for so long I’m begging you, “please - let’s talk about rape - let’s talk about it until everyone knows that it’s wrong and that it’s ok to talk about it - and if you rape someone, chances are are they’re going to speak up”
I realize that no one wants to be the “girl who was raped” (myself included) but the truth is, in a society where more than 60% of rapes go unreported, think of what a deterrent just talking about it could be.
Furthermore, I hope you’ll talk about rape because I know firsthand how badly not talking about it can mess someone up.
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